Comments for Christopher's World

Comment on To the future… by Alopro

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Comment on jobs… by Eliot

Eliot — Fri, 16 May 2008 03:31:06 +0000

yes, and do it all naked.

Comment on jobs… by Lewis

Lewis — Thu, 15 May 2008 21:20:52 +0000

I’ve been a little absent lately, but I’m still around and wanted you to know that I appreciate your comments and friendship!

Comment on jobs… by Steven

Steven — Wed, 14 May 2008 14:29:46 +0000

The one thing that always bogs me down when these ideas of “doing my own thing” comes to mind is the cost of insurance.

Comment on jobs… by javabear

javabear — Tue, 13 May 2008 20:48:32 +0000

I like the direction these thoughts are taking you. Doing something completely different would likely clear up your mind for other things. Would this wine and cheese shop be in the Boone area? (Oh, man is it ever beautiful up there!!!) Is there a good market for it in Boone?

The whole idea of a wine and cheese shop reminds me of the old Monty Python skit about the cheese shop. Do you know it? I hope your cheese shop will be better stocked!

Good luck!

Comment on jobs… by Susan

Susan — Tue, 13 May 2008 07:16:51 +0000

Hell, I always thought that Chocolate went well with sex too!!

Seriously, I think that your thought process is excellent. I know that the Hy-vee here in Olathe has alot of cooking classes for all kinds of ages and paletes. It sounds wonderful !

As for the money . . . maybe you could spice up those home videos and infamous blog photos? LOL. You know, if I had any, I’d invest in you ! I can’t even afford the ink to print some off!

Just don’t give up, I have a feeling that fate is in your favor lately.

Love ya,
Susan

Comment on Light and Hope by Kiba

Kiba — Tue, 13 May 2008 06:19:59 +0000

The truth brings with it a great measure of absolution, always. ~R.D. Laing

Good luck!

Comment on jobs… by Kiba

Kiba — Tue, 13 May 2008 06:12:11 +0000

One word: Chocolate! Goes sooo well with wine…and beer…and tequila…and coffee…and….

Comment on Naked Exposures… by Eliot

Eliot — Mon, 12 May 2008 04:11:03 +0000

i’m happy to read this. good luck.

Comment on Naked Exposures… by sparsely kate

sparsely kate — Mon, 12 May 2008 03:12:08 +0000

I would probably hold off sharing that blog link with your parent’s then. Your Mum sounds like she needs a while to get used to it.

take care

Comment on Naked Exposures… by Steven

Steven — Sun, 11 May 2008 02:07:27 +0000

I thought that was you on that blog! I did a double-take but still quickly dismissed it. All kidding aside, it’s nice to hear how things have “come back” together for you. May things continue down the right path.

Comment on Naked Exposures… by javabear

javabear — Sat, 10 May 2008 15:19:25 +0000

Sounds wondeful all around. I think a toilet seat for mother on Mother’s Day is just the thing this year. Good choice. (Funny, too. That’s always a plus)

So glad you and Scott are reconnecting. I predict this bonding will make things stronger than they ever were.

Congrats to you and kudos to dad for him supporting you for who you are with what you need. He needs something much better than a toilet seat for Father’s Day next month, IMHO.

Comment on Naked Exposures… by Kiba

Kiba — Sat, 10 May 2008 04:28:12 +0000

Great! I’m so, so happy that everything is going so well for you! And what other blog?!?!!

Comment on Naked Exposures… by Susan

Susan — Sat, 10 May 2008 03:51:28 +0000

Uh . . . ANOTHER blog? How many nude photos do you have floating around out there ?

Comment on Naked Exposures… by Susan

Susan — Sat, 10 May 2008 03:47:55 +0000

It sounds like things are falling into place, maybe not in a way that was expected, but it seems very nice.
It’s funny how we sometimes need a crisis, or a jolt to our everyday lives before we can look around and see what’s really important. I like the idea of you taking things a little slower and eliminating some of the stress.

I hope things go smoothly for you this weekend.

Love ya,
Susan

Comment on Fairies with tales… by sparsely kate

sparsely kate — Fri, 09 May 2008 12:43:44 +0000

I promise I will never tell the Pope!

Comment on Fairies with tales… by dit

dit — Thu, 08 May 2008 22:08:37 +0000

At times as a joke, it is said that “communication is the key to any relationship.” It rings true. Relationships are not easy, that is for sure. We all have a tendency to get wrapped up in silliness and pettiness, especially in the work place. Take care and good luck, it sounds as if you are on a good adventure to knowing each other again.

Comment on Fairies with tales… by Kiba

Kiba — Thu, 08 May 2008 18:30:50 +0000

Glad things are working out for you both ^_^

Comment on Fairies with tales… by javabear

javabear — Thu, 08 May 2008 18:19:48 +0000

Is that the sound of love re-emerging from the shadows? I’m glad you two are finding your way back to each other. As for the parents, eh? We make our choices. They made theirs. You are doing what you need to do for you. That’s what’s right.

Good luck!

Comment on Fairies with tales… by Susan

Susan — Thu, 08 May 2008 10:00:30 +0000

I didn’t even want to talk to Roy, much less go out with him, when I first met him, but it’s amazing what a really good kiss will do !!!!

Yeah, you should talk more, work things out, that sort of thing.

As for me, I’m trying to re-focus on the kissing part. After 18 years, I can pretty much count on what ever he says will probably just be something goofy anyway.

So, talk, kiss, talk, kiss, talk, kiss . . . you get the idea, right?

Love ya,
Susan

Comment on Fairies with tales… by truthspew

truthspew — Thu, 08 May 2008 06:44:15 +0000

Truth be told, Keyron was supposed to be a one night stand for me. But funny thing happened that first night, I don’t understand it to this day.

It’s now 15 years later. A friend of mine summed it up nicely, she says it’s obvious that we love each other and actually like each other.

So there is hope.

Comment on Death by a Monday… by javabear

javabear — Wed, 07 May 2008 21:07:45 +0000

I’m with Steven in hoping that the past two days have been an improvement over Monday.

Keep crying when you need to. Tears are the pressure valves for our souls.

Blessings-

Comment on Death by a Monday… by Steven

Steven — Wed, 07 May 2008 14:05:19 +0000

Sorry to hear that your Monday did not go well. As Susan stated, an ultimatum at your age is absurd. At this stage of their lives, they should be reinforcing the bridges they have, not letting them crumble. It’s friends like MT that one must hold dear in their lives. Hopefully Wednesday is going well!((((Christopher))))

Comment on Death by a Monday… by Susan

Susan — Wed, 07 May 2008 10:47:20 +0000

Uh, by the way . . . Dude,

Being struck by lightening does not result in being vaporized. (actually, I’ve heard that it hurts like hell.) If you want to get vaporized, I have a few options that might work, but that’s a whole other post.
Love,
Susan

Comment on Death by a Monday… by sparsely kate

sparsely kate — Wed, 07 May 2008 04:17:13 +0000

I’m with Susan, ultimatums at “our age” are ridiculous and not fair. Don’t go there with them…you live your life. Be proud of who you are, ok? You’re terrific.

So you’ve had a bad day, we all have them. I have my moments believe me about thinking the world might turn a little lighter on it’s axis if I wasn’t around not-coping and creating turmoil and upset.
But then I get myself a choccie biscuit and I shut the fuck up with that sort of thinking and get on with the job.
A new day always brings hope.
You always write that to me; so I’m saying it back to you.

love a ‘delightfully silly’ friend xxx

Comment on Death by a Monday… by dit

dit — Wed, 07 May 2008 00:54:22 +0000

Oh my, that is a bad day. Hope things got better for you. Take care.

Comment on Death by a Monday… by Susan

Susan — Tue, 06 May 2008 05:52:39 +0000

Oh Chris, I’m so sorry. It seems like life is always moving too fast. I’m sure it all feels like too much, too soon.

Do you really think your folks are for real? Ultimatiums seem a bit absurd at this stage, don’t you think ? God, family can be such a pain in the ass!

I know that you really don’t need all this crap right now, but I know that you can work through this. I’m really hoping and praying that Scott can be help and comfort to you this evening. You know that you can call anytime if you want to talk. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Love ya,
Susan

Comment on Arguing for the right reasons… by Steven

Steven — Mon, 05 May 2008 16:51:27 +0000

The one thing I always try to remember is that in a relationship, “We agree to disagree.” I heard myself talking in your second paragraph. And unfortunately, what that led to most of the time was me keeping score on how often I “diffused” and let him “win.” And I love your “stand for the important things in life.” Keep the dialogue open and have a fantabulous week!

Comment on Hope of a new dawn… by Steven

Steven — Mon, 05 May 2008 16:41:16 +0000

Glad to hear of this latest advancement which will no doubt put you a little more at ease. It’s nice when communication can help tear down those walls that have been put up. But DO give yourself some credit here. It was a bit disheartening when you stated, “I don’t deserve the time he gave me yesterday.” He has probably said the same thing to himself. Smile!

Comment on Arguing for the right reasons… by Java

Java — Mon, 05 May 2008 03:55:23 +0000

You are making SO MUCH progress!! I’m uber impressed with your discussion with your mother. That’s putting the rubber to the road, or some other appropriate cliche.

I wish you all the best, you and Scott, as you learn to talk to each other. I hope you learn so much about each other that you fall madly in love all over again. It can happen!

Comment on Arguing for the right reasons… by sparsely kate

sparsely kate — Sun, 04 May 2008 23:41:48 +0000

I don’t think I’ve ever admired you more, Mr C. This post was really open and honest and thank you for putting it down on print so we can all share in your thoughts!!

Be brave and true - great words to live by (for me as well!)

Comment on Arguing for the right reasons… by Susan

Susan — Sun, 04 May 2008 05:40:00 +0000

Oh by the way, us “old people” need ALOT of TLC when it comes to our wrinkles and imperfections - getting old sucks !!!

Comment on Arguing for the right reasons… by Susan

Susan — Sun, 04 May 2008 05:33:17 +0000

I couldn’t help but smile at this post. Do you think that Scott would volunteer to have a similar chat with my hubby? Never mind, probably wouldn’t work anyway, Damn!

I can relate to the parent issue (to a degree) My mom has never really approved of my spouse either. But I think that finally, after 18 years, she has learned to have some respect for our commitment to each other - through good times and bad. She may not like Roy, and there are days, when I feel the same way about him; but she will behave, and keep her opinions to herself, because I have made my feelings clear. Deep down, she just wants me to be happy, even if she doesn’t understand it all. Which is fine, I will NEVER understand alot of the choices that she has made either.

Keep talking, Love is one of the few things that’s actually WORTH the frustration, aggravation, and effort.

Love ya,
Susan

Comment on Hope of a new dawn… by Java

Java — Sat, 03 May 2008 05:20:35 +0000

Wow. Glad you followed your heart to Boone. Talking together, listening to each other; so intimate. Meet each other anew. Know yourself deeper.

Comment on Hope of a new dawn… by sparsely kate

sparsely kate — Sat, 03 May 2008 01:10:16 +0000

Hi you!

I can imagine how good this must feel, to explain your actions and talk it out.
Good luck with it all - and stay true to your feelings and no matter how it might seem to others.

Comment on Hope of a new dawn… by Susan

Susan — Fri, 02 May 2008 19:30:55 +0000

I know what a hard step that is to take. Hopefully, the two of you can begin to rebuild your relationship, or at least, come to some understanding that makes for a better future for both of you. Hoping for the best - for both of you.
Love,
Susan

Comment on Hope of a new dawn… by Kiba

Kiba — Fri, 02 May 2008 18:35:19 +0000

That’s wonderful! I really hope things work out for you both. ^_^

Comment on A walk… by Susan

Susan — Thu, 01 May 2008 02:27:22 +0000

Good thing you take your “walks” with your eyes open, as opposed to leading with your nose like the dog !

Love ya,
Susan

Comment on A walk… by Steven

Steven — Thu, 01 May 2008 02:11:42 +0000

Seems you are one who is fast to respond just like the snake. You were of competition that was no match to him. “I’m ready to let my guard down, relax and get a good night’s sleep for a change.” Here’s to sooner rather than later!!

Comment on A walk… by tornwordo

tornwordo — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 18:43:41 +0000

Yikes, I woulda peed my pants.

Comment on A walk… by Kiba

Kiba — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 15:02:29 +0000

Thank heavens both you and the dog are alright.

To every thing there is a season and seasons don’t last forever. The peace and calm will come, they may take their own sweet time, but they will come.

Comment on Familiar Strangers… by somewherejoe

somewherejoe — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 20:13:58 +0000

I appreciate your use of the word ‘mold’ here… it’s as if you set the mold, then in due course, it was ready to be turned over and enjoyed… tada!

Comment on Familiar Strangers… by truthspew

truthspew — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 00:29:36 +0000

Sounds like an amazing time. You’ve impacted quite a number of lives in a very positive way. Kudos to you!

Comment on Familiar Strangers… by mel

mel — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 23:40:37 +0000

Another fantastic post! These are like scenes out of Serendipity or something!
SO glad to hear the universe is turning in your favour.

Comment on Familiar Strangers… by Kiba

Kiba — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 00:28:46 +0000

It really sounds like you had a wonderful day and that things are changing for the better. I’m so happy for you. ^_^

Comment on Familiar Strangers… by johnmichael

johnmichael — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 21:12:19 +0000

I have always wondered what kind of impression I leave behind as I make my way through this life.

Comment on Familiar Strangers… by Susan

Susan — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 19:18:52 +0000

Well . . . you DO tend to leave an impression on people ! It’s amazing how fate is intervening in such a positive way in your life right now. I think that bodes well for your future. I am so pleased and happy for you.

Love ya,
Susan

Comment on Familiar Strangers… by Steven

Steven — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 17:12:50 +0000

Sounds to me like that mold is shifting in the right direction. And take the time to let your heart swell with pride. You deserve those moments; as they were recognitions of accomplishments.

Comment on Familiar Strangers… by rob

rob — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 16:36:33 +0000

Sounds like a wonderful day

Comment on An unexpected Conversation… by Java

Java — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 01:06:39 +0000

Wow. That seems quite significant for both you and your dad. May the lesson and the healing be applied in the best way.

And may you be blessed.

Comment on An unexpected Conversation… by truthspew

truthspew — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 22:13:58 +0000

I’m glad thing seem to be working out for you.

I understand how difficult it can be. My only remaining parent is my father and to be honest, he’s an asshole. I know he struggles with my being gay but he’s fully aware that it’s MY life and he doesn’t interfere.

Comment on An unexpected Conversation… by Lewis

Lewis — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 20:26:13 +0000

I admire you…..for many things, but especially “for wanting to become a better person.” We can all benefit from that.

Comment on An unexpected Conversation… by Susan

Susan — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 18:57:11 +0000

You know, I’ve been thinking of you, and how difficult being at your folks might be for you right now. Partly because of what I know of you, and what you’ve said about your parents, but also because I have also found myself, back at home during personal struggles and crisises. Ugh, why does “home” always seem so awkward and miserable, and still so safe and inevitable sometimes?

Anyway, even as I mulled over these concerns for you, I secretly hoped that there might be a higher purpose in it. That you would find some healing and comfort that was overdue for you.
I’m glad that you shared this - in fact, all of this. In a strange way, knowing that you are being strengthened, strengthens and comforts me and my faith. I’m also glad that I can count you as my friend. You are a wonderful and incredible person.

Love,
Susan

Comment on Joy in the world… by Lewis

Lewis — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 16:59:45 +0000

I am in love with your last two paragraphs. I needed that reminder!

Comment on An unexpected Conversation… by Kiba

Kiba — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 16:31:52 +0000

Kind of sounds like my family…every time someone’s health turns south they jump on the morbidity wagon. When our old family doctor thought I might have breast cancer my mother and brother were already starting to mourn my passing even before any tests were done.

God, my brain is fried…no sleep. So much I want to say and just can not get my brain in gear to write it. I’ll just say that I am really happy for you and proud of you and hope it makes sense.

Comment on Joy in the world… by mel

mel — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 05:42:10 +0000

this is the best post ever from you! I am so glad to hear things are going great.

Comment on Joy in the world… by Susan

Susan — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 03:31:33 +0000

Sooo . . . Atlanta is sounding pretty good ! I’m so glad that you are re-discvering the joys of life, and the possibilities that the future holds for you. You are a wonderful person and you deserve nothing but happiness. I’ll be praying that the job situation there in Atlanta works out as well.

Love ya,
Susan

Comment on Joy in the world… by Java

Java — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 03:30:18 +0000

So how are you feeling about all of this? It sounds pretty positive to me.

Keep us updated. I am interested in how this situation resolves itself. If life can be said to ever resolve. Revolve, yes. Resolve? Rarely.

But know that you have been in my thoughts, and I care.

Comment on You want to touch my what? by Java

Java — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 03:10:58 +0000

Wow. What an experience! I am catching up with you now after a couple of weeks away. I am impressed with how well things are moving along for you. Can you sense it?

How blessed you are to be looking at so many job options, rather than searching desperately for a job offer of any kind.

I hope things continue to progress apace. Sadness in normal, and temporary. Good luck!

Comment on Joy in the world… by Kiba

Kiba — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 23:31:48 +0000

Talk about being in the right place at the right time. See? Told ya it would all work out.

Comment on Joy in the world… by truthspew

truthspew — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 22:22:38 +0000

I’ve got to get down to Atlanta. Friend of mine wants me to move my consulting business there. I just might do it, seems that there’d be more than enough work just for her place of business alone.

Comment on You want to touch my what? by Steven

Steven — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 02:21:35 +0000

Sounds to me like you’re going through your own molting, shedding of your skin, coming out of your shell. I truly believe your “positive aura” will definitely result in more positive responses from those that you meet. So when can I touch your heart, shoulder and forehead?

Comment on a day set aside… by Steven

Steven — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 02:08:39 +0000

I can only echo the sentiments of those who have preceded me above. And I know all too well the dates that today are no longer celebratory dates, but dates that remind me that I have grown. You continue to grow, too….and will prosper.

Comment on You want to touch my what? by Cameron

Cameron — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 01:50:06 +0000

Where were you, at a psychic fair?

I’m very glad to hear that things are looking up for you.

Comment on You want to touch my what? by Lewis

Lewis — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 14:31:53 +0000

It sounds like one hell of a fantastic time! And the touching? I’ve never had that done…..well, except in the “you know what” way. Isn’t spring one of the coolest seasons for starting over?

Comment on You want to touch my what? by Kiba

Kiba — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 06:48:05 +0000

Sounds like you’re having some fun. Good for you! I am absolutely delighted that you are meeting people that are showing you what a wonderful person you really are.

Good luck with the rest of the weekend and have fun!

Kiba

(forgive the clunkiness of the writing…I just woke up and should know better than to type when I’m half asleep…thank built in spell check!)

Comment on You want to touch my what? by mel

mel — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 00:48:22 +0000

That was a very lovely post to read..full of optimism and a new direction. I’m very happy for you C.

Keep going forward! You’ll get your happy ending for sure.

love mel

Comment on You want to touch my what? by Susan

Susan — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 22:59:18 +0000

Wow Chris, you sure have a knack for attracting a strange group of people, myself included! I would love to have someone stop me and say, “Hey, I’ve got a feeling about you, and you need my divine intervention and wisdom.” But no, I’m stuck here muddling along in the dark!

Seriously, I’m so glad that things are going well for you ! Georgia would be nice. I’ve heard that it’s a fun place, lots of things to do and see. I think Bella would love it too.
Give me a call when you get back, I want to hear all about it !

I’m praying that things start to click into place and you get settled soon - I like to know where you’re at , if I need ya.

Love,
Susan

Comment on a day set aside… by stephen

stephen — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 18:53:24 +0000

Sometimes things happen that is totally out of our hands to prevent, finding the strength to live beyond it can be so very hard, especially when the memories, the still felt love locked away for safe keeping is only a seconds thought away. Sweet friend, if anyone, knows the pain written in the words of your post, you know it is I, ((((hugs))))) from my heart.

Comment on a day set aside… by dit

dit — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 22:17:18 +0000

Maybe think of this as an anniversary of freedom? which might be odd for April 15th, so often the day we pay “The Man.” lol

Comment on a day set aside… by Eliot

Eliot — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 04:16:31 +0000

sorry. i hope a happier date and anniversary is ahead soon.

Comment on a day set aside… by Kiba

Kiba — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 04:26:17 +0000

/hug

Comment on a day set aside… by Susan

Susan — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 20:29:11 +0000

Oh Chris . . .

I am so sorry that you are hurting. Words seem so useless when when friends I care for hurt.
If I were there. . . I would give you a big hug, do something stupid to try and make you smile, (I’m really good at that) and try to explain to you why I’m glad you are my friend. (in fact, I’m going to get to work on that right away - I’ll make a list for you.) And if none of those things worked, I’d have to take you out and get you drunk.

And C - THANK YOU for sharing your heart - I know that’s not easy right now.

Love ya,
Susan

Comment on a day set aside… by Lewis

Lewis — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 18:40:45 +0000

As one who remembers dates, times, places horribly well, I know you’re troubles…..I am constantly reminded of people, activities, hurts, good, bad….over and over. I think they are meant to propel us to higher places or something like that.

Comment on a day set aside… by Cameron

Cameron — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 17:36:36 +0000

It’s only natural that you are experiencing a range of emotions following this breakup, which are often in conflict.

April 15th is “one of those days” for me, too — aside from the obvious tax thing. It is also my mother’s birthday and she would have been 92 this year. Alas, she passed away a couple years ago.

Dates have a way of working their way into your heart, one way or another — long after the relationship ends.

Comment on Update… by Lewis

Lewis — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 23:04:49 +0000

I know one thing for sure…..I’m going to start sobbing at restaurants and hoping someone will take pity on me and pick up the tab! I’m kidding…totally. Very glad you’re a bit on the mend and things are looking just a little brighter. Happy thoughts my friend.

Comment on Update… by Eliot

Eliot — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 03:00:04 +0000

Hey, I live in Northern Virginia. Pretty great place to live, although very expensive. There are few places I’d leave here for.

Comment on The genetic factor… by Al P.

Al P. — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 21:41:29 +0000

The scientists don’t need to work too hard to erraticate the christian gene. Between the Catholic child molesting priests and the Mormon church leaders marrying 12 year olds, the Christians are slowing erraticating christianity all on their own.

Comment on Update… by Susan

Susan — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 18:24:46 +0000

Hey there !!!

I’m back !! I missed you all so much !! I’m so glad that we had a chance to chat, and you know that you can call anytime - this is the house that never sleeps.

You WILL be fine. Just keep in touch with friends and those who love you. We will be your strength when time are dark. We are never more than a click, or a call away.
I know that you will find the perfect housing and job situation. So many changes at one time can be draining - be sure to take care of YOU.

You mean so much, to so many people - you are in my thoughts and prayers always.

Love ya,
Susan

Comment on Update… by Kiba

Kiba — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 05:57:53 +0000

I’m glad things are taking an up-swing for ya! Hopefully all this will lead you to better and brighter things, at least that’s my hope for you. ^_^

Comment on Update… by Mel

Mel — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 00:13:55 +0000

I’m really glad to know that you are ‘hanging in there’. I’ve never had a huge case of a heartache, not really, but reading this from you I am terribly sad that you are going through it.

You’ll get through this, of course you will! And I agree with you, when you least expect it, you do find that people really are wonderful, warm human beings.

Take care C.

mel x

Comment on Update… by truthspew

truthspew — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 21:20:09 +0000

Christopher,

I like your perspective on interviews.

As far as on the job stress, I had that happen to me about six years ago. I was on my fourth year with this particular company but it was taking a terrible toll on me.

Its funny, Keyron thinks that when I was Director of I.T. for the AG’s office I was more stressed. He is so wrong. Working for a manufacturing/retail concern as I.T. director was much worse.

I remember when I left there to go to the AG’s office I warned them that my former boss might try something. I was right. The chief investigator went out to talk to him and when the investigator got back he called me up to his office.

He asked me how I could have worked in such a negative environment for near five years, and how I could tolerate my former boss who in the investigators opinion was a real asshole.

Comment on Update… by johnmichael

johnmichael — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 17:36:38 +0000

I truly believe that God has a plan for all of us. It’s an aspect of my faith that has gotten me through so many personal crisis.

I also believe that we are bound to bump into people who will give us a handle on life, those who will clear away the jaded environment that many of us tend to fall into.

I hope that you continue to get better. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Comment on Update… by Cameron

Cameron — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 17:30:04 +0000

Thanks for writing a more personal post — I was wondering how you were doing.

It sounds like you are beginning to heal. That’s very good news!

I hope you get a job out West.

Comment on Update… by dit

dit — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 17:12:23 +0000

I am happy to hear you are feeling a little better. Seattle is a beautiful and amazing city. I recently learned that they actually have one of the highest gay populations in the country, who knew? Take care and hang in there.

Comment on Update… by Steven

Steven — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 16:35:14 +0000

Now you’ve got me crying! Thank you for the sharing of the recent news. I am happy to hear that the chest pains, coughing and headaches have dissipated. Hopefully they will be maintained at bay. And what blessings to have had Jennifer and Mark come into your life and relieve you of some major worries! Good karma has definitely come your way and hopefully it will stick around for a long time. Life is better because we’ve encoutered you as well. It goes both ways. Good luck Christopher with your prospects!

Comment on The genetic factor… by Steven

Steven — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 14:11:50 +0000

I loved the parallels it had drawn with the same stories we have been hearing about the gay gene.

Comment on tears… by Jasminharrington

Jasminharrington — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 06:37:54 +0000

Christopher, my mother wanted you to know that she is thinking about you. She does know about you and Scott, and can not wait to be there for you again soon. She is trying to the best of her ability to keep her sanity knowing that all of her friends appear to be falling apart and she can not be there for the ones she loves right now!

Comment on The genetic factor… by stephen

stephen — Sun, 06 Apr 2008 15:14:08 +0000

Funny, but it certainly puts new twist and spins on the age old debate, now doesn’t it? Thanks for sharing.

Comment on Options and decisions… by knottyboy

knottyboy — Sun, 06 Apr 2008 14:02:20 +0000

A lot has changed in just a short time. I was looking forward to more pink than red state for a change. Regardless, it was great seeing you for only a moment.
Hugs,
kb

Comment on Options and decisions… by tornwordo

tornwordo — Sun, 06 Apr 2008 11:00:53 +0000

Z looked the best, maybe try to dig up more info on the company. Excellent salary and housing provided? Very nice.

Comment on The genetic factor… by Kiba

Kiba — Sun, 06 Apr 2008 08:14:15 +0000

Too funny! And, wow, that’s a honking big rat.

Comment on The genetic factor… by truthspew

truthspew — Sun, 06 Apr 2008 07:01:50 +0000

You are fully welcome to use it here. I thought it was pretty good though.

And I know that as we probe the brain they’re actually finding the centers in which the religiosity originates. In essence, religiosity is a mental illness.

Comment on tears… by photogreg

photogreg — Sun, 06 Apr 2008 01:16:58 +0000

Hey Christopher,

I just discovered your blog and I can so relate to your pain. I went through the same thing over 2 years ago.

Hang out with your family and friends, the ones that support you. But if you’re like me you may find yourself withdrawing for a bit. Glad you’re seeing a counselor. The road is difficult enough without some guidance. But even if you can’t see it now, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Take care,
Greg

Comment on Options and decisions… by Cameron

Cameron — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 18:17:47 +0000

Option “Z” also strikes me as being preferable to the others.

Just a hunch.

Comment on Options and decisions… by tommy

tommy — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 18:07:27 +0000

And then there is good ole Louisiana !!!!!

much better than WY.

Warm, just as friendly people

Good Food

Affordable Housing.

Hot Summers

Corner of St Ann and Bourbon St

Lots of National Forest to roam in

Comment on Options and decisions… by Mel

Mel — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 09:09:32 +0000

go with your heart and what feels right…you’ll know it when you come across it.

Unless you are libran like me in which case you’ll have your work cut out for you in deciding!

good luck.

Comment on Options and decisions… by Kiba

Kiba — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 05:21:58 +0000

“Z” sounds pretty good if you don’t mind the unknown in the last column or don’t mind know knowing anyone there. The provided housing is definitely a big plus.

Comment on Options and decisions… by Steven

Steven — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 00:27:22 +0000

Is there a difference between Good, Reasonable, and OK?
“Z” looks like a front-runner to me. Everything listed about “Z” looks very good, including housing that is provided for you. What kind of housing are we talking? Is it the distance out on the west coast that has drawn you away from “Z”?

Comment on Options and decisions… by truthspew

truthspew — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 23:32:50 +0000

If it were me I’d go with D. I’ve been looking to relocate to the Atlanta area. Housing there is not expensive at all compared to where I am in RI right now.

I can probably grab $150K a year or more in a job there, housing is < $600 to $1000 a month. I can definitely deal with that.

Comment on Options and decisions… by christopher

christopher — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 21:14:40 +0000

Oh, I suppose I left it a bit unfair as I left the names of the potential relocation destinations veiled. I was trying to make it as unbiased as possible, but I’ve my personal biases. I am very faimliar with those two destinations and know people in both those destinations. I suppose I should have included and additional column for knowing folks there in addition to the community. Sorry for the confusion.

-C

Comment on Options and decisions… by dit

dit — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 20:49:28 +0000

WOW! I love options. lol Yes, what makes A and D front runners? Location?

Comment on Options and decisions… by Coach Paul

Coach Paul — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 20:46:41 +0000

Christopher:

First of all, I love your garden image at the top. It is so peaceful and alive.

Secondly, I tried to find out what A and D had that made them front runners, but couldn’t find the pattern. Do you feel comfortable sharing what moved them up to the top of the list for you?

Warm Regards,

Paul

Comment on tears… by Cooper

Cooper — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 18:50:33 +0000

It takes courage to do what you did … but that doesn’t negate the fear and grief. In doing so you are loving and accepting your own self, and that’s the beginning. Realising a dream always begins with action. Without that, it can never happen. You have taken that first action. Bless you, Christopher. May this be the start of your fields of gold …

Comment on tears… by Steven

Steven — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 18:04:01 +0000

Oh Christopher I am so very sorry to read of this news. You have been very guarded of your personal life on your blog and what has been happening behind the scenes. And to see this posted really pains me. The wisdom that you have shared with me and the help that you have offered me have always been welcomed and appreciated. I hope that I can help in any way during this difficult time. ((((Christopher))))

Comment on tears… by tommy

tommy — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 14:48:37 +0000

Today I came across your web site, from “Sticky Crows” as a link.

As with the other comments listed here, I am too sorry to hear of this impending break up. Life doesn’t need to take those turns, for they are far too many these days.

I sympathy to you

Comment on tears… by javabear

javabear — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 13:24:28 +0000

Wow. I was aware you were making some changes in your employment situation. Last time I check in here (usually about once every week or two) it seemed the decision to leave the job was a sound one, and though perhaps a bit scary, you were taking a leap of faith and doing what you need to do.

And here you are, doing what you need to do in your personal life. But that’s harder, I think. There usually is more invested in a personal relationship than a business relationship. The separation is more wrenching.

This is a lot of major change for you in a very short period of time. That will stretch a man to his limits. Please stay connected to your support structure. Allow yourself to forgive YOU! Email me if you’d like. You can find the email link on my blog profile page.

And I’m not too far from you, I think. I’m in western South Carolina, about 45 minutes south of Greeniville. Come visit, enjoy the lovely warm Spring that Mother Nature is exposing here in Greenwood if you’d like.

Take care of you, sweetheart. You will be alright eventually, even if you can’t see that from here.

Comment on tears… by Cameron

Cameron — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 18:24:09 +0000

I admire your strength to follow through with what you need to do in order to be happy in your life, even though the destination is often reached through pain.

It’s how we grow.

Nothing in life is wasted. Although one may perceive a recently broken-up relationship as a “waste of time — why did I do this?” — it was in fact something you needed to experience, for whatever reason.

The important thing NOW is for you to take care of yourself and your needs. I send you positive energy to find a home and work that is rewarding.

Best wishes, Christopher!

Comment on tears… by Kiba

Kiba — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 09:36:05 +0000

I am so very sorry, honestly and truly, I am. I know what it’s like to not be accepted 100% for who you are by those you love the most. If I were closer you would have a place to stay in a heart beat, hell, you have one now. I’ve also been without a home so I know what that is like too.
I wish I had the words that would make everything all better for you. I wish that I could do more than type ineffectually at my computer. You are a wonderful, caring, loving person and if he can’t see that, well that’s his loss.
If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m a good listener, just let me know and I’ll shoot you my phone number (something I never do).

Whatever happens know that there are people out there that honestly care for you.

My love, thoughts, and prayers are with you my friend,

~Kiba

Comment on tears… by dantallion

dantallion — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 01:22:23 +0000

I’m so very, very sorry, Christopher. My thoughts are with you. Mindful of the fact that I don’t know nearly enough of what you’ve been through or what you’re going through now, I offer you the following very fundamental truth: If you have been living a situation where your partner hasn’t been accepting you for who you are - and I mean ALL of you, then changing that circumstance - however you do it - is the very least you can do for yourself. You deserve to be accepted by the people in your life. We all do. Your decision was a courageous one. A new dream will come. {{HUG}}

Comment on tears… by Mel

Mel — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 00:47:58 +0000

C - I’m sad for you guys. Very sad. Break ups hurt the heart so badly.

There is always a spot for you in Canberra if you want to try some escapisim!!?

Mel x

Comment on tears… by Lewis

Lewis — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 22:34:49 +0000

oh dear god. i am unbelievably sorry christopher. please, please know that if i were closer, you know i’d be there in a minute. to listen. to hold. to hug. whatever was necessary. it is a poingant reminder to me, to all of us, to listen to those nearby, or far away. just listen. sounds simple, doesn’t it? today i send you my love, thoughts for as much peace as is possible, and for joy — as much as is to be found right now. please, be in touch if you’d like to be. i can’t stand the thought of our world, our relationships, falling apart. i send you my love and hugs. for all they are worth.

Comment on Moments of silence and fields of gold… by david

david — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 14:04:25 +0000

Change is always a good thing! It keeps us from getting stagnant!

Comment on Moments of silence and fields of gold… by LBB

LBB — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 16:56:48 +0000

There’s no way Ides could be that dumb! If she is, what a treasure she must be.

Good luck with the career. What do you do just now? What line of work are you in?

Have Ides draft an executive summary and email it to me!

Comment on Moments of silence and fields of gold… by Eliot

Eliot — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 04:01:36 +0000

welcome back dawgg!

Comment on Moments of silence and fields of gold… by Steven

Steven — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 21:55:22 +0000

Glad to see that you are back in swing of things. And not by chandeliers, either! Let’s hope that this resignation will only open up the opportunities for you. You definitely deserve better than what you have been dealt. I thought I have been keeping track of you through your blogging fairly regularly, but what happened with the job prospect out west in, was it Oregon? I seem to recall that you reported doing pretty good with the interview.

Regardless, again, it is great to “see” you back. And my best wishes for finding that job you will fit well with.

Comment on Moments of silence and fields of gold… by cameron

cameron — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 16:34:14 +0000

I was so glad to read your post this morning. I’ve missed them!

CONGRATULATIONS on handing in your resignation. You’re closing a door so that another (better!) one will open.

Is Spring in full bloom there yet? Here In The Woods, buds are starting to appear, but it will be a few more weeks before everything “pops”.

Comment on Moments of silence and fields of gold… by Kiba

Kiba — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 16:32:42 +0000

Welcome back! Glad you haven’t fallen down a well or something! I’m confident that you will find employment else where; a smart, talented man like you shouldn’t have too much of a problem there.

Your secretary reminds me of me at my first admin assistant job. The letters I used to type kept coming back covered in red, looking for all the world as if they were in need of a blood transfusion, but that was primarily due to the fact that I kept trying to correct the horribleness that is “business English” and rewrite it in something more literate sounding. Eventually I gave up and they stopped coming back to my desk looking like war refugees.

Comment on This Week’s Recap… by Kiba

Kiba — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 06:29:27 +0000

/poke, poke

You still there? And if so when are you coming out to play?

Comment on This Week’s Recap… by Eliot

Eliot — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 04:11:56 +0000

where are ya?

Comment on This Week’s Recap… by mel

mel — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 23:46:56 +0000

Sending you good wishes… shouting out to C! Hope life is treating you well. You have lots of friends on here.

mel x

Comment on This Week’s Recap… by Susan

Susan — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 03:15:12 +0000

Christopher . . . . where are you ? Come out, come out, where ever you are !

Love ya,
Susan

Comment on This Week’s Recap… by Steven

Steven — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:24:21 +0000

Missing your posts and hoping everything is OK Christopher.

Steven (Dorothy’s Friend)

Comment on This Week’s Recap… by dantallion

dantallion — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 21:37:15 +0000

Sometimes we are given what we don’t even realise we need. Glad you got a little r&r.

Comment on This Week’s Recap… by mel

mel — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 21:06:04 +0000

Hi C,

Best to avoid Delta airlines! Or do what I do and avoid airlines all together. :))

I hope you’ve had time to relax and settle back down to a quiet routine.

Mel xx

Comment on This Week’s Recap… by LBB

LBB — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 06:27:52 +0000

I ate elk chili once. Best chili of my life.

Ah, elk chili.

Comment on This Week’s Recap… by LBB

LBB — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 06:27:13 +0000

I could have sworn I commented here.

Comment on This Week’s Recap… by Laurie

Laurie — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 01:56:15 +0000

I’ve never flown Delta. I’ve only been on American
Braniff and Alaska Air. Maybe I should try them
sometime. HA!

I love the snow but I hate skiing. I took a nice
tumble down the sloop once and tore the ligaments
in my knee. I did like the Dr. though. Really cute.

Comment on This Week’s Recap… by somewherejoe

somewherejoe — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 14:31:09 +0000

I share your qualms about public hot tubs. Strikes me as the last place I’d want my pores, or anything else, dilated, lol. Massage, however, can be transcendent. The best of them have brought me to tears.

Seems airline-promulgated vacation extensions are the theme of late. Luckily you had a spectacular locale in which to unwind a little more.

Comment on Stuck … by W

Sat, 01 Mar 2008 15:06:54 +0000

Getting stuck in a rut is the most awful feeling. Creativity, drive and passion are the things I hold very dear to me and am very worried that I might lose them all one day.

Sometimes unexpectedly when things don’t work at a place they work out well after all. One man’s meat is another man’s poison.

Comment on Jackson Hole, Wyoming Trip by W

Sat, 01 Mar 2008 14:53:45 +0000

Beautiful!